We have all had it happen to us. You receive an unexpected call. Or, someone catches you at the door, “Please, will you do this?” And we say yes. But afterwards we wish we’d said no. Business owners may be especially vulnerable to pop-up requests from people asking on behalf of nonprofit causes. After all, you like the requester and the cause well enough. And while the support probably won’t help your business, it probably won’t hurt it.
But it does hurt. Your “yes” means that you will have less to invest—your time and your money—on projects that align more closely with your business goals tomorrow.
Since it happened before, it will happen again. Like Ulysses who knows he must pass by the Sirens, what pact can you make with yourself so you won’t agree to commitments you regret later? How can you tie yourself to the mast, so to speak?
You might say, “no” to everything. However, this means that you’ll miss out on helpful opportunities. It’s like putting wax in your ears.
You might ask everyone to, “Send it to me in writing.” This buys refection time, but creates future work for you and the requestor.
Or in advance you can establish criteria. Base these on your goals and needs. When you receive unexpected requests, promise yourself to use your criteria to separate the wheat, opportunities you want, from the chaff, those you’ll regret. For everything else, consider saying, “Thank you. That probably won’t work for us.”
For instance Laura, a small business owner, quickly agreed to a short-term board assignment. Her criteria:
For unexpected requests, save your immediate yeses for opportunities you’ll embrace with enthusiasm tomorrow.
Karen Eber Davis Consulting guides executive directors and CEOs to generate the resources, boards, and support they need to make remarkable progress on their missions. As the award-winning thought-leader, advisor, and founding principal of Karen Eber Davis Consulting, Karen helps nonprofit leaders get answers, generate revenue, and grow their mission. Davis is known for her innovation and practicality based on her work with or visits to over 1,000 nonprofit organizations and her experience leading board and team events. She is the author of 7 Nonprofit Income Streams and Let's Raise Nonprofit Millions Together.